Mastering the art of giving feedback: tips for trainees What are some things trainees should avoid when giving difficult feedback to their superiors? Well, one of the biggest red flags is giving feedback in a blaming way. It’s easy to fall into this trap, even I do it myself sometimes. When we use language that starts with “you” or “you made me feel,” it can come across as accusatory and defensive. While this kind of language is common, it’s best to avoid it when giving difficult feedback to sup